I'm still waiting to achieve this level of zen. I once fumbled with it for 2 tries and I was pretty happy about that.
I've never had a problem connecting the charger since the day I bought the Surface. Try holding the charging cable by the wire about an inch above the magnetic plug then let the magnets do the work. Works every time and I don't even have to look where to plug it in.
My dog can do it.
I was able to put my socks on today without catching my big toe!
But seriously, the best way to put the charger cable in is to hold it about an inch from the charger tip so it is kind of floppy in your hand. Put the top edge of the plug into the socket and the rest will just snap in. Works perfectly every time. The key is to hold it loosely so the magnets can take over.